Thursday, August 21, 2025

Real Life Stories of Love and Sacrifice

 Story#1: The inspiring story of Dashrath Majhi

The Mountain Man: A Story of Dashrath Manjhi

In the quiet village of Gehlaur, nestled near Gaya in the eastern Indian state of Bihar, a boy named Dashrath Manjhi was born on January 14, 1934. The land he called home was unforgiving, marked by dry fields and a formidable mountain ridge that cut Gehlaur off from the world beyond. Life was hard, opportunities scarce, and the towering rocks that loomed over the village seemed as immovable as fate itself.

Like many of his generation, Dashrath ran away from home as a young boy. He found work in the coal mines of Dhanbad, covered in soot and sweat, learning the ways of survival in a world that showed little mercy to the poor. But eventually, he returned to Gehlaur, perhaps hoping for a quieter life. There, he married Falguni Devi, the woman he loved.

The village had no road, no electricity, and little access to basic services. Gehlaur sat on the plains, but just beyond it, the Rajgir hills rose steep and unyielding, their quartzite ridge millions of years old. On the other side of those hills were hospitals, schools, and markets—things Dashrath and his people could only dream of. The road to the nearest hospital wound around the mountain, stretching over 70 kilometers.

In 1959, tragedy struck. Falguni Devi fell seriously ill. Dashrath tried everything he could to get her medical attention. But the journey to the hospital was long and arduous, and they never made it in time. She died, not from a lack of medicine, but from a lack of access.

Grief transformed into a vow. Dashrath Manjhi looked up at the ridge that had stolen his wife and decided it would not claim another life. He would carve a path through the mountain, alone if he had to.

People laughed. They called him mad. A poor laborer with no training, no money, and only a hammer and chisel—how could he ever hope to cut through stone?

But Dashrath did not listen.

Day after day, night after night, under the burning sun and monsoon rains, he chipped away at the mountain. He sold his goats to buy tools. He worked as a farmhand during the day and broke rocks at night. Often, his hands bled. He went hungry. But he did not stop.

What began as a madman’s dream turned into a mission that would last 22 years.

And then, one day, it was done.

Dashrath Manjhi had carved a path 110 meters long, 9.1 meters wide, and 7.7 meters deep through the solid rock of the Rajgir hills. The distance from Gehlaur to Wazirganj dropped from 70 kilometers to just 1 kilometer. The path to the nearest hospital was now only 15 kilometers—no longer unreachable in times of need.

The people who had once mocked him now walked the road he built. Word of the Mountain Man spread beyond the village, beyond the state, and all the way to New Delhi. Dashrath traveled there, seeking recognition not for himself, but for the people of Gehlaur. Eventually, the government acknowledged his incredible feat. The Chief Minister of Bihar, Nitish Kumar, honored him for his determination and sacrifice.

Dashrath Manjhi passed away on August 17, 2007, but his legacy did not die with him. In 2016, the Indian government issued a postage stamp in his name, forever etching his story into the fabric of the nation.

Dashrath Manjhi didn’t just carve a road—he carved a path through despair, through doubt, through grief. With nothing but love and a chisel, he proved that even the mightiest mountain can be moved by the strength of the human will.

Sunday, June 29, 2025

Unrequited Love

 The most famous story of unrequited love has to be by author Charles Dickens "A Tale of Two Cities."

The novel explores themes of sacrifice, resurrection, and social justice, particularly through the characters of Charles Darnay, a French aristocrat, and Sydney Carton, a London lawyer his lookalike. Both fall for Lucie, the beautiful daughter of Dr Alexander Manette, once imprisoned for exposing aristocratic crimes, but she chooses to marry Darney. Darnay is repeatedly threatened by the revolution due to his family's history, and Carton ultimately sacrifices his life for Darnay and Lucie.  Sydney Carton rises in moral stature when he sacrifices his life to save Darney. Rather than grudge Lucie for not returning his affections he is noble enough to sacrifice himself on the altar of unrequited love. In the final act, Carton goes willingly to the guillotine. He comforts a young condemned seamstress and utters the novel’s famous final thought: “It is a far, far better thing that I do…”

Maybe such characters are only to be found in fiction though. 

Recently in the news (25th June 2025) is a lady engineer working in Deloitte Rene Joshilda who plotted revenge against a colleague who had spurned her advances and married another man. Over the past year, Ahmedabad Police say Joshilda, a robotics engineer and senior consultant with Deloitte in Chennai, sent hoax bomb threats to more than 20 locations across India: stadiums, schools, airports and hospitals, all in the name of her unrequited love. Her targets included the iconic Narendra Modi Stadium in Ahmedabad. "She was in one-sided love with a Brahmin boy," said a senior official with Ahmedabad Police’s Cyber Crime branch. "When he got married, she started planning revenge. She wanted to ruin him."
The emails, sent over months, triggered panic across 11 states: Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu, Delhi, Haryana, Rajasthan, Karnataka, Kerala, Bihar, Andhra Pradesh, Telangana and Punjab. Each time, police scrambled teams, evacuated buildings and launched search operations. Every alert turned out to be false.
Described by the police as highly educated and meticulous, Joshilda utilised the dark web and encrypted email IDs, even using Pakistani VPN and accounts in the name of the man who never reciprocated her feelings. All this was to mask her identity and implicate him. She even sent an email from him claiming he was responsible for the Air India Plane Crash in Ahmedabad. This is when the authorities woke up to her threats and set up teams to track her down. 

One of the most famous examples of unrequited love is Dante's love for Beatrice in Dante Alighieri's La Vita Nuova and The Divine Comedy. Dante's unrequited love, though idealized and ultimately transformed into a spiritual connection, provides a powerful illustration of the intense emotions and lasting impact that unreturned affection can have. Dante fell in love with Beatrice Portinari at a young age, but their relationship was primarily one of idealized admiration from afar. Beatrice married another man, and Dante himself married someone else. According to one source, Dante's love was largely one-sided, with Beatrice barely acknowledging his affections. 
Dante's collection of poems and prose, La Vita Nuova, is a chronicle of his love for Beatrice, immortalizing his feelings for her even after her death. It is a testament to the profound and lasting impact of unrequited love. 
Beatrice is also a central figure in Dante's epic poem, The Divine Comedy, where she serves as his guide through Paradise. This suggests that even in the face of death and spiritual transcendence, the memory and idealized image of Beatrice continued to inspire him.
The consequences of Dante's unrequited love were multifaceted. While it caused him emotional pain and longing, it also fueled his creative genius, inspiring him to create some of the most enduring works in Italian literature. His love, though not returned in a conventional romantic sense, ultimately became a source of spiritual and artistic inspiration.

Sunday, March 16, 2025

Quotable Quotes on Resignation/Retirement

 Imagine you are at your Retirement/ Farewell party about to give your farewell speech to colleagues  and someone asks "How do you feel, to be leaving the organisation?" What should be your reply?

The fact is the majority of us do dread that awful day when we leave the safety of a secure job to wade into uncharted territories. The familiar faces of colleagues,  that gossip at coffee break, the familiar desk and cosy corner spot in the office. It is almost enough to negate those tough days when the boss's curt commands, colleague's cold stares, missing promotion once again were enough to drive us into the dumps. Here are some quotable quotes from great writer's we can take inspiration from

People wait all week for Friday, all year for summer, all life for happiness.” – Unknown  

can be changed to 

People work all week for Friday, all year for summer holidays, all life for retirement.”

“Don’t waste your life living someone else’s dream. Don’t try to emulate the people who came before you to the exclusion of everything else, contorting into a shape that doesn’t fit.”

– Tim Cook, Apple CEO, Stanford University 2019 Commencement Address


"Every person has the power to make others happy. Some do it simply by entering a room others by leaving the room. Some individuals leave trails of gloom; others, trails of joy. Some leave trails of hate and bitterness; others, trails of love and harmony. Some leave trails of cynicism and pessimism; others trails of faith and optimism. Some leave trails of criticism and resignation; others trails of gratitude and hope. What kind of trails do you leave?" ~ William Arthur Ward

Sunday, February 9, 2025

The Story about Onassis the Greek Tycoon

 From Facebook

The following tale is so poignant. It reminds us that Karma exists. Maria Callas left her husband and career for the rich Onassis, but in the course of time he discarded her for Jackie. The story is as follows
There existed a Greek Billionaire from Argentina in the 50s.
His name was Aristotle Onasis.
Onasis made his money as a Logistician,in Whaling,and Oil.
At some point he owned land inside half of Monaco and was a share holder at the Monte Carlo Casino.
At some point all the cargo ships that traversed seas all over the world,half of them were owned by him.
He also built Luxury cruises that offered sea and Island tourism for the extremely rich and powerful.
Onasis was a short,stout and by his own account an ugly man.
He was liquid as river nile but he was not easy on the eye.
Onasis would hire the best artists and pay them heavily to entertain and dazzle his friends in these cruises.
This was the golden age of Opera,Theatre,Musicals.
And the greatest Opera singer was Maria Callas.
So for Career Tuesday we look into the life of Maria Callas.
God installed all sets of Repertoires in Maria’s lungs.
She could sing and people would cry.
She could sing and people would be renewed,
Maria could sing and glass would break,
Maria’s voice transported people,
Maria would complete a performance and the entire opera would go quiet, a mystic air engulfing the room.
Maria stepped into Onasis' cruise and sang,and Onasis fell in love with her – Because who wouldn’t?
The only problem is that Callas was a married woman and even in this ship,
Her husband was with her.
But a man like Onasis buoyed by the power of his money and the fact this was his ship went for the kill.
Maria buoyed by the prospect of marrying the richest man on earth and what it would do for her career fell right in.
Her husband already had the disadvantage being in a ship owned by a man who wanted to take his wife.
A swimming puppy competing a shark at sea.
As the story goes - Maria Callas divorced her husband and went to be the Mistress of Onasis.
Onasis divorced his wife and promised to marry Maria and she moved in with him.
Then Onasis told Maria he hated the Opera,He hated the sound of singing and requested Maria to stop singing.
She stopped.
Her life now became that of the Mistress of Billionaire Onasis – riding in luxury cruises all over the world,attending cruise parties,meeting the rich and famous – popular in this circle were men like Winston Churchill and his Cigar,President John F Kennedy and his charming smile – Men who decide the trajectory of the planet.
Iconic women like actress Marilyn Monroe were permanent residents.
Maria Callas did not sing for ten years.
As we all know - President John F Kennedy was carrying on an affair with Marilyn Monroe – all this while abandoning his wife Jackie Kennedy, yet again another bombshell of a woman and guess who was sleeping with Jackie on the side?
Onasis.
President John F Kennedy was shot dead and guess who quickly forgot about his decade long mistress and married Jackie Kennedy?
Onasis.
Maria had to move out.
After a while,Maria decided she wanted to go back and sing,and when she tried,her voice was gone – and the world had moved on to new stars because the world never waits for anyone – You are either in the ring or outside,And she could not even rely on her long lost fame,You cant be a singer with no voice.
Onasis died in 1975, left Jackie Kennedy billions and left Maria Zero..not even a cent for the 9 years of companionship.
Maria retreated and lived a quiet life,of sleeping pills,of anti depressants,of silence,of separation,of desperation,of trepidation,of private grief.
She grew so thin and frail.
One day her heart stopped.
Beams of light from the huge window panes were criss crossing the appartment and briefly getting interrupted by her body on the floor, then travelling to finish the journey on the adjacent wall when they found her.
The story of Maria Callas is one I always find so relevant when it comes to young people just starting off their careers,the talented among us and what being in a relationship means for their careers.
The man or woman you are with plays such a crucial role in the trajectory of your career.
So choose well.